We are a generation of instant gratification and its gonna get us in trouble.
Only a few decades ago military wives had to wait weeks, months, for a letter from their husbands. We seriously need to get over ourselves and stop demanding this from our loved ones. They don't need that additional pressure from us. They cant control the rolling blackouts and cell phone reception. Don't you think they are calling as much as they can? Can't we just be happy with the fact that we heard from them YESTERDAY and not complain about them not being on the internet today? So many soldiers have access to internet, skype, instant messaging, web cams, cell phones, myspace, and facebook. Soldiers and their families are SO LUCKY that the world is so small now compared to only 20 years ago.
Lucy informed me today that even 26 years ago when her father was deployed, her mother got ONE 3 MINUTE phone call a month and had to wait for hand written letters. I just cant imagine some of my friends "making it through" without the perpetual calls, emails, text messages and IMs.
But I know that not all soldiers and their families are as lucky as others and they dont hear from them twice a day. But it's still more than my grandmother heard from my grandfather in Vietnam. It must have been excruciatingly painful to watch your husband walk away and not know when you would hear from them again. And today, that same soldier husband can call home when he makes it to his connecting flight in Germany and Kuwait.
Yes, I understand that my husband has never been deployed and I'm sure I cant even imagine the hardship you're going through. Except that Joe was in Germany for two years. And there were times he couldn't call me for weeks because the PX ran out of phone cards because they were sending them all downrange. Did I spaz out? Of course not. It didnt mean he didnt love me any less. That's just the way the Army is sometimes. And yes, I was glued to my cell phone for months because I didnt want to miss a call, maybe the only call I would get that week. But I certainly didnt complain to everyone around me that Joe didnt call me that particular day. Because I knew he would be able to call eventually. Just like deployed Soldiers are today.
Now, I know someone will jump all over me saying that they like to hear from their husband or boyfriend EVERYDAY so they can know he is okay. And I completely understand that. How dare I complain about them wanting to hear from their loved one??? That's not the point I'm trying to make at all. Yes, your husband is in a war zone. And you are very concerned. But he's there only because he volunteered for it. He signed that paper. And you signed up for this Army wife life.
But it dawned on me today just how lucky we really are as Army wives in 2009, not 1979, 1959, or even 1939. Think about it. The hardship is still there, no one can deny that. But some parts are far easier.
I guess my point is, just please don't take it for granted.