"Sara, I'm probably deploying in March. Are you ready?"
How do you answer your husband and a question like this? So my response?
"Sweetie, I'm not deploying. You are. Are YOU ready?"
And maybe that's exactly what I was supposed to say (psychology degree finally paying off!). I think he needed to talk about the deployment and our relationship. We joked and poked fun at the deployment and a long distance marriage. We talked about coming home and acclimating to "normal" life. We talked about OPSEC and phone calls. We talked about expectations.
I was afraid that Joe wouldnt talk about some things. He's a very private person; not quick to express his feelings and fears. He's not one to show weakness, even to me, his wife and girlfriend of almost a decade! We have a great relationship, and do long distance very well. Joe was in Germany for two years. And between phone cards and Yahoo! messenger, we did pretty good. But it means a lot to me that he wants to make sure I'm ready or prepared for the possible outcome. I will always hope for the best. But I think he knows it's my nature to prepare for the worst. So on this Thanksgiving Eve, I am thankful for a realistic, loving, supportive husband who loves me enough to open up and talk about his fears and worries.
I love you sweetie! And I'll be as ready as I can be when that day comes.