I have seen this happening a lot on Twitter and Facebook lately. Not just to me either. I think it needs to be said that people can be sympathetic and empathetic without trying to "one up" someone else. For us military spouses, Twitter is a great place to vent and get helpful advise and hear about other spouses' experiences. And I LOVE to hear from more experienced people. This Army life is nuts and it's very nice to hear about the problems others have so we can all learn from their experiences.
But trying to one up another person in their lowest moments does not help! We've all seen it happen. Someone will tweet that they are having a bad day because of x, y, and z. And someone else will tweet back, well not only do I have x, y, and z, but I also had a, b, and c happen to me today. Or my personal favorite- I hate ______ because of this and this! And someone will actually reply back to them, I hate ______ more because this and this and THIS! What's the point?? Cant we all be sympathetic or reply to our fellow military spouses without wanting to become the center of attention?? It's perfectly fine to just say, sorry hun, I hope it all passes soon. Or even, yeah, my day sucked too, lets have a Twitter wine fest (yeah, I stole that from last week, I still think it's a good/fun idea!)!!
I think this "one up-ing" shows a real immaturity on their part. I don't need that in my life right now. I have unfollowed a few people because I don't want to hear them constantly try to compete with someone else's bad day or feelings. All humans need someone to validate their feelings, but competing with them doesn't help anyone. If you have helpful advise or a similar experience that can help them out, bring it on! But dont compete with them!! Let them have their moment to express themselves without trying to one up them.
And sadly, I know the people that this blog is SERIOUSLY aimed at will never read it. But I needed to get that off my chest.
